With several million blogs already up and running, why in the world would we want another? This is certainly a question I asked myself when I was contemplating starting this one.
My big reason for writing a blog stems from the fact that, during my fifteen years in the field of conflict resolution, I have found and used some techniques that I have never heard of anyone else using. The big one, of course, is my One Good Idea Method of conflict resolution. (I have written about this in my new ebook “Resolve Conflict with One Good Idea.”)
But there are also a number of other techniques and approaches I use that are highly effective, but very non-traditional, coming in part from my own non-traditional background.
A very high proportion of mediators are lawyers. Very typically a law firm will expand its range of services to offer mediation, in addition to its standard legal work. In fact, U. S. News and World Report’s number one dispute resolution school in the country, Strauss Institute for Dispute Resolution, (through which I received much of my training) is part of Pepperdine University School of Law. So mediation is a highly lawyer-centric profession.
My own background, however, is quite different. I was originally a comedy writer. (I wrote for “The Monkees” and “Love American Style” among other things.) So it gives me a very different perspective.
It turns out to be a surprisingly good background for conflict resolution. Because as a comedy writer you are always looking for a new way to do something, a new angle, some new approach. And that’s exactly what you need to do in conflict resolution. You need to find a new direction for your disputants, to help them turn their thinking away from the conflict, and move instead toward some kind of resolution.
My conflict resolution work, growing out of this background, has proved very effective. I served for three years in the Alternative Dispute Resolution Program of the Los Angeles County Court System. With 14,000 mediation cases a year, it is the largest such program in the country. For two of those three years, 2000 and 2001, I received the Outstanding Case of the Year Award.
I believe there are some very valuable and important new things to say about resolving conflict. I plan to explore them in this blog. In addition, I will share some true stories I have collected about real people who have found amazing and inspiring ways of resolving conflict in their own lives.
Finally, I will use the blog to provide a wide variety of helpful resources for you to draw on and use for resolving conflict. Things like tips, articles, websites, training programs, and videos. And if there are particular topics you would like to see covered, please let me know, and I will steer the blog in their direction.
Welcome to the blog!